04 Aug Disability or Opportunity
Yesterday, I undertook a challenging task—a competitive road race in Greenville on a difficult course. The race began at 7:30 A.M., demanding an early start to my day. The nerves were palpable as I rose from my bed, fully aware of the daunting race ahead, with its steep hills and unforgiving pace.
At the starting line, I found myself in the company of two remarkable individuals: a man with autism to my left and a man in a wheelchair to my right. Their presence was a powerful reminder of the courage that exists in the face of adversity. One has a disability that isn’t always noticed immediately, and the other draws attention immediately. Both are difficult, but their determination was truly inspiring.
It was a moment of realization. What about my disabilities? These are things like self-doubt, jealousy, and fear. In that moment, I connected with the other participants, realizing that we all face challenges regardless of their visibility. I need to be in community with real people who are facing real stuff. That connection improves me, and I bet you feel the same way. As a matter of fact, when I name my inner challenges, I can begin to understand them better, and through rigorous work, they often disappear or take a back seat to opportunities.
It is possible to be a great competitor and have compassion for your opponents. A few years ago, I began praying for the opposing team, asking God to help them have a great experience. Here’s the miracle that happened: I began to be a better coach because of the freedom that I possessed. I believe in miracles. Nice guys, don’t finish last. In fact, I’m more competitive than ever and way more effective.
If you want to become a better version of yourself, I urge you to read my book, Hard Comes First, which features real-life accounts of transformations to a better and more meaningful life. My idea for a book began upon the realization that most of my best players overcame something difficult before taking it to another level. This has helped me to see my players not with the limits of where they are today but with the beauty of who they can become. The book is honest and raw, which is life at its best.
Hard Comes First is available on Amazon. I hope you’ll read it and face your challenges and opportunities with the boldness that comes with freedom.
Respectfully,
Rod